Winning with People

 

Dale Carnegie once wrote a book titled ‘How to win friends and influence people’. Through the pages of that timeless book Dale exposed the tactics any one could employ to be effective in human relationship.Winning with people remains the best path to meaningful work and life. You may be reading this now with some thoughts on your mind like ‘winning with people is so difficult’ or you may be saying ‘people are so crazy these days I just can’t stand it’.

You may be right as a matter of fact you are right. Winning with people is not a tea party that is the most reason you should read this head on.

The work place can be fun all that is demanded is people skills- the emotional intelligence to turn a sworn enemies into trusted ally. Here is my winning with people strategies

1. Learn to complement others                                                                 Complementing others genuinely is a powerful way to start winning with people. People love complements. It makes them feel special. Notice how you felt the last time someone complemented you. Look out for great things happening in people lives. It should be real because flattery is counter-productive.

2. Smile! Smile! smile!                                                                              

 A smile has magical effects on others. It is always good to look at people and smile. It sends out the right signals to people. A smile on your face encourages the other person to be relaxed in your presence. It makes you approachable by your colleagues. One of the most potent communication tools available today is smile. When speaking on the phone always smile because the other person will feel the impulse on your voice and will reciprocate by being friendly this will result to a fruitful discussion. Smiling is a win-win approach in business negotiation.

3. Remember People’s Name                                                                              Business like every other relationship is deepen by the simple practice of remembering and using other people names always. People are attached to their names and they always feel a sense of connection with anyone who calls them by their name. As a business leader you need that connection with your subordinate as this will develop loyalty and trust in your people. When meeting with people for the first time as them to spell their names for you if it is strange. Memorize it and use it correct before that first meeting ends. And when next you meet or call be the first to call out the person name this will make the other person feel you and her had known each other from Adam.

4. Refrain from criticism                                                                                     Critics are one of the most unhappy and unproductive people there is in the world. People who are armchair critics don’t usually have a track record of accomplishments. They are not a good team player. These are the reasons while nobody should make a career out of criticism. It takes energy- lots of it to criticize someone while not turn that energy into building a career of great height. Listen, you can pinpoint positively to your boss, colleagues or associate error or mistakes but don’t push it further until the other person is disillusion or discourage. Criticism has driven a lot of people into suicide. Not everyone is strong enough to bear the burden of trash talking. Focus on winning with people; focus on getting alone with people not on destroying or opposing them. 

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